In my Kirk Franklin voice patient love, kind love, sweet love, kind love, patient love, kind love, sweet love, kind love… Love a word that comes and goes, but few people really know, what it means to really love somebody…
As we look in the scripture, the NLT version of 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 goes a little like this:
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
Could you imagine a being on this earth that loves you this much? Doesn’t raise their voice at you when they are angry? Doesn’t get irritated or agitated? Doesn’t ‘one up’ on you every time they do something for you? I know about 1 person who showed the ultimate gesture of love and really obedience. Jesus.
But I thought I would break down these verses to tell you what I think this scripture is saying with help from google dictionary. Sometimes, we think we know what the word means, until it is broken down.
Love is PATIENT – love is able to accept or tolerate delays, problems or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious or upset. It is being uncomplaining and tolerant when people are not so much willing to give that. Despite how people may be, being it’s their character or just being unruly, we are called to be patient with them without becoming upset with them. Sometimes, and I know I do this, I look at the person and think to myself while shaking my head you don’t know better, you are being real ignorant, you are being a total mess. God has called us to be patient with those types of people. The real key is without getting upset or annoyed by them. Becoming annoyed and upset, are feelings and human nature, but don’t allow those feelings a place in your life. You have to capture all negativity that arise, and exude patience.
Love is KIND – love is the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate of others, showing concern, care and gentleness towards others. How many times we are not so generous or considerate of others? How many times we don’t hold the door or elevator for people? How many times do we speak without regard to someones feelings? How many times we hold on to what we can give to be generous? This isn’t walking on eggshells, or being a doormat, but as true Christians, we are called to be this way. Being careful of the things we say, and the things we do, especially if it will affect others negatively or will rub them the wrong way. If you have a dollar that you aren’t going to use, but for a soda anyway, and someone needed it for a train ride home, what do you do in those situations? Give in to your thirst at the moment, or help someone’s betterment?
Love is not JEALOUS – love doesn’t show envy of someone or isn’t suspicious, untrusting, doubting, insecure or anxious. In relationships, do we do this? Always having that uneasy feeling when our ‘other’ is not around? Going through phones, Facebooks, emails, Instagrams.. and all social medias? Love doesn’t do this. Love trust. Love is secure with whom & what God has placed in your life. Love doesn’t get angry when someone gets the raise that you know you deserve. Love doesn’t snoop or follow behind your significant other. Love isn’t uneasy, but very secure.
Love is not BOASTFUL or PROUD – love doesn’t have a big mouth, isn’t arrogant and having a very high opinion of ones’ self or ones importance. Love doesn’t brag and isn’t full of ones self. Love isn’t boast about all the things someone bought you or brings it up to you to prove to you they love you. Love doesn’t make you feel lonely, or beneath. It doesn’t make sure you know its love. Love doesn’t announce itself, it just is.
Love is not RUDE – love doesn’t offend, or isn’t offensive. It isn’t ill mannered, impolite, discourteous, or bad behaved. Love has manners, most of all is considerate of you. Checks on you. Love makes you feel loved and appreciated. It isn’t offending, and tells you to get over it. Love respects you and your opinion, and doesn’t throw it away like it doesn’t matter. It is civil and gracious. Love is not cold hearted, sharp and tactless.
Love is not IRRITABLE – love doesn’t get testy, grouchy, grumpy, moody and short tempered or bad tempered. Love doesn’t become easily annoyed or angered. Love doesn’t fight all the time, or pick fights every day. Love isn’t always in a bad mood, and doesn’t have a bad spirit attached to it, always down.
Love is JUSTICE – love is fair, even headedness, honest, and moral. Love is righteous and good. It is concerned with the principles of doing what is right. Love is proper conduct, and walks upright and virtuous. Love has good standing.
Love does not PROVOKE – love doesn’t test to give reaction or rise out of someone, to deliberately make someone angry or annoyed. Love doesn’t play games. But don’t we do it though? Because we want to see where they head at? Right? Love doesn’t do this. Real love doesn’t have to do this. Real love doesn’t want others to be angry or irritated. Love doesn’t annoy people. Doesn’t do what knowingly annoys another.
Love KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS – isn’t a ‘tit for tat’. It isn’t always bringing up something that happened last year. The bible says, don’t go to bed angry any way. So we should already settle our differences before we go to bed. But how easily and how much we want to still ‘prove our point’ the next days to come? Because we still mad. But love forgets that, and starts fresh daily. No matter how much it hurt you, hurt your feelings, Love keeps no record of wrongs and forgives.
Love ENDURES – love suffers something painful or difficult at times patiently. It remains in existence. I like the above verse translation says, it endures every circumstance. Every situation. Every hard time. Every cry. Every annoyance. Every joy. Every concern. Every hard place. It remains after all the hard stuff. It remains.
Love NEVER FAILS – love is always successful, it lasts. Pretty self explanatory.
So, how are you loving? This blessed me, even writing this. Sometimes we have to check ourself to see if we really are loving the way we should not the way we want.