Just FYI, this is sorta personal….
She pulled me to the side and said “Don’t let anyone diminish your worth! The precious pearl you are, don’t let no one take that from you. It’s like you go to the pawn shop and you have a $25,000 ring to offer to only have the shop owner offer $25.00 for it. You know it’s worth more than that what’s he’s offering. Don’t let anyone steal your worth or make you feel that you are nothing. You are anointed, and the anointing defends itself. We don’t even sometimes ask for it, but we have it, and as God takes you higher, people will fall off. Remember that. ” She gave me an embracing hug.
I guess that instant was supposed to make me feel better. And it did, for a good minute, like a day or so. But after the assurance, I had to face the hard truth, that I was alone again. I had to go back to an empty, silent house and pretend I didn’t want the phone to ring, and pretend I was ok, and deep down, I wasn’t. I had to face this rejection and disappointment again. I had to face the loneliness and repeated memories and the ‘what ifs’ and ‘should ifs’ in my head. I had to face them alone, and even though I thought I got closure from the situation, I really didn’t.
So I went home that night, asking a simple question to myself. What is my worth? More importantly, what does God say about me? And why do I allow what people say to reverse what God says about me? I mean everyone I meet tells me “Oh, honey, you have such a sweet spirit!” and “You are so sweet!” and “God is pleased with you!” But yet in an instant, I forget who I am? As a reminder, He says:
- Ephesians 2:10 “For we are Gods handiwork, created in Christ Jesus…”
- Psalms 139:10 “…I am fearfully and wonderfully made…”
- Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you… plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
- Isaiah 43:4 “…you are precious and honored in my sight and because I love you…”
- John 6:37 “…whoever comes to me, I will never drive away.”
- Matthew 10:31 “So do not be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”
If I know His Word is true, and since God hand crafted me, then I am still valuable to Him! Like really, every part of my being, He knitted together from the womb of my mother. That means, all of what He has brought me through, and to, has crafted me into the woman I am supposed to be today. As Joyce Meyer would say, “I am not where I am supposed to be, but thank God I am not what I used to be!” Although I reach and strive for perfection in Christ, pushing every day, I will never be there in my own strength. But even through all of the imperfections that I have (not seeking Him first in everything I do, disobedience sometimes, my attitudes, gossip, lust, talking about people, etc) God still reminds me of who I am and how valuable I am to Him through His Word.
It’s so embarrassing trying to convince someone of your worth (who you know you are are are capable of, based on what God said), let alone yourself. But God will tell you himself, and send reminders (people, social media post, family, friends) to keep you focused and to keep you strong. For me, I thank God for sending those people at the right time, to remind me of His promise to me. Those that stepped in to assure that this will pass. Those that reminded me to never apologize about who I am or even about where I came from. Those that said, “Amber, you are worth it! God see’s you, your obedience and your sacrifice. God knows. Don’t doubt yourself. God’s love NEVER runs out. You will run into someone one day that will make the promise to you and keep it, THE ONE that will help you turn those flaws into triumph, not magnify them, and definitely won’t leave you. That’s how God love us every day. If he wants to leave, let him.” And deep down, I know that’s true. Was hard to grasp it, but I knew it was true.
In a powerful Love sermon taught by Joyce Meyer, her last statement to the congregation was what is a healthy self image. She said:
“I know God created me and I know He loves me unconditionally.
I know I have faults and weaknesses and yes, I want to change.
But I believe God is working in my life and I believe He’s changing me day by day.
While He’s doing it, I can still enjoy myself. I can still enjoy life, and can still be a blessing to other people.
Although I do have faults, I also have strengths.
I’m going to maximize my strengths instead of focusing on my weaknesses.
I like myself. I don’t like everything I do, and I want to change, but I like myself!
I like what God has created!
I don’t want to ruin the life that Jesus died to give me by rejecting myself.
My worth and value is not based on how other people have treated me, or what they think about me, or what they say about me.
It is based on the fact that God created me and Jesus died to redeem me and He loves me. Therefore I can love myself and therefore I am able to love other people!”
I encourage young ladies, and even older ladies, to remember what God said about you, your future plans and your worth. It shouldn’t diminish by what other have said about you. Ask God to help you in that area if what they said is true, and have it help you instead of hurt you. But remember who and Whose you are, and if someone, some man, some friend, some boss or whoever cuts you off, leaves you, fires you, then let them. Continue on, do the best you can with what you were ‘left’ with, and press forward in Jesus!
Be blessed and know you are worth more than what someone says about you!