…is to do absolutely nothing. Period.
Sometimes we want to get back at someone who hurt us, our friends our family…. someone who acted injustly or got away with something. We want to pray that those who hurt us will ‘get theirs’. Our human nature wants to lash out, key cars, leave nasty texts or voice mails, perform riots…basically do harm for harm. And when you feel like that, and do those things, you have completely missed it, and fell right in to the enemy’s trap, seriously.
Yes, the bible says the Lord will repay those who hurt us, and we can quote that scripture all the day long, but know that Romans 12:19-21 (totally condensed) clearly says “Do not take revenge, my dear friends …do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good”. (Yes, I intentionally left out ‘vengeance is mine says the Lord, I will repay’ because we are so caught up in that part of the verse, we miss the message, and forget the rest of the chapter!)
As new creatures in Christ, now, we should want to always pray for those who hurt us, if it was intentional on their end or not. Jesus ordered us to do this in Matthew 5:44. “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.” I believe this is one of the ‘true’ test as a new creation, to be able to take the hurt and use it for God’s glory, when you can intentionally pray for someone who wronged you. (By intentionally I mean as in your first reaction, like you didn’t really have to think about it, but you just did it! Not pray because you knew it was the right thing to do, but really want God to help them!)
True story: I was in high school and I wasn’t the most popular, of course, and there was this girl who just didn’t like me, for some unknown reason. I didn’t even know who she was, just the girlfriend of my boyfriend’s friend. So I hear she was talking about me, saying bad things… going around school with my name in her mouth. So I kept continuing on. So, it was near graduation, and the high school seniors had to write a senior will. And in our senior will, we wrote what we want to say and to whom for well wishes and success (like your friends, teachers… boyfriends). So I wrote to all my friends and boyfriend. And lastly, I also wrote in it “…and to all those that don’t like me, that’s too bad. I pray for you, because those are only dumping burning coals on your head not mines! Romans 12:20.” (Or something like that anyway.) So, moving forward a month, I believe it was our senior breakfast that we started speaking to one another! Just like that! Just picked up a friendship. And then I felt bad for putting what didn’t need to be said.
When I think about most of the people who have hurt me, I prayed for their renewed mind and spirit, especially when I lined up what they did/said to what the Word of God says. Sometimes, people don’t know they hurt you, or how badly it hurt. So I asked the Lord to bless them and fulfill them with the fruits of the spirit, and revelation as they go on in life. Because sometimes I see in them a hurt person, who just knows no better, therefore they can’t do better. But I also pray for my renewed mind and spirit. Why? Because sometimes when we feel wronged by someone, it just may be our wakeup call to learn from it what we can. I learn what I can take from it. Then I forgive, let go and move on.
There is no other action to be taken.
I was watching this Judge Judy episode where this young guy who led this girl on to think she was going to the homecoming dance with him, and he had no intention on going with her. So she sued him for the cost of her dress, tickets and everything she paid to get prepared for the dance… and won the case! Judge Judy gave her some advice and said “…oh, but he will get his day. And you probably won’t be around to see it, but this will come back around on him.” And this is great advice. Being free in Christ is the ability to leave your care to Him, and go on with your life. I know it’s probably easier said than done, but it causes you to be free from worry. While we sit here waiting on when are they going to get theirs God? and He sitting back questioning you, why you still worried about this?
I heard the saying “He that angers you controls you, the best revenge is living well.” So do it on purpose! Live well, and leave what doesn’t matter alone. Remember, He got this! I encourage you to: