(Disclaimer: I was going in one direction with this blog, and ended up being 2 subjects in 1, so, here we go! :-D)
I was asked last year to take in my mother, as she needed a place to stay for a while. I was used to my own space. I was used to my way of living. I was used to it just being Rex (my dog) and I, and our routine. I had already a schedule. I already had my steady electric, water and gas bill. I was very comfortable living with myself. I didn’t want to break my comfortability, allowing me to be uncomfortable, so she would have somewhere to stay.
Yeah, it was. But those were the thoughts I was thinking, rushing and bombarding me when my mother asked if she could stay with me. God told me to say yes.
Was it easy living with her? No. Not at all. When you have lived by yourself for 5 years and developed your own set of rules, you have a very hard time adjusting to co-exist with someone. Did it help me in the development of my selfish character? Yes, absolutely. Did it help me to learn how to co-exist with someone? Yes, absolutely. Did it help with my communication skills? Yes, it did. Did it help me to hold my tongue about unnecessary things? Yes. Did living me with help her too? I sure hope so. The season was not by accident. It was something I needed from her, and it was something she needed from me. In that season.
Now if I had abandoned her from the start, told her “No”, God would have then put me in another season, with another person where I had to develop what I would have learned from her. Same thing goes with aborting the season (process). It would have re-started the entire process with someone else. Same thing goes with mishandling the season (process). God would have then ended that season, & re-started me again. Men and women of God have a process to go through, though each are specifically unique to that persons gift, God strategically put things and situations to make it happen.
Let’s make it plain.
Let’s say you pray to God, Lord, I want to be a Godly wife, shape and make me into her so I can be suitable for my husband. (Sounds like a prayer I say often! *giggles*)
OK, well, let’s see some of the characteristics of a Godly wife or woman:
…she loves the Lord and want to please Him Proverbs 31:30
“but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised.”
…she is a servant of the Lord: 2 Tim 2:23-25
“…. Have nothing to do with foolish talk and those who want to argue. It can only lead to trouble. A servant owned by God must not make trouble. He must be kind to everyone. He must be able to teach. He must be willing to suffer when hurt for doing good.”
…she is not lazy and very diligent Proverbs 31:13, 15
“She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.”
“She rises while it is still night and makes food for all those in her house”
…she is controlled, the keeper of her house and trust her husband Titus 2:5
“to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”
…she is classy through her actions Proverbs 31:25
“She is clothed with strength and dignity”
…she is praised by her family Proverbs 31:28
“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her”
…she is quiet Proverbs 9:13
“A foolish woman makes much noise. “
…she is wise about the money she has Proverbs 31:16
“She gives careful thought to a field and buys it”
…she gives effortlessly serves, not just to the poor, but those who need help Proverbs 31:20
“She opens her hand to the poor, and holds out her hands to those in need.”
…she is unique and a step above other women Proverbs 31:29
“Many daughters have done well, but you have done better than all of them.”
God might answer this prayer by:
- Enabling seasons (people, circumstances) of loneliness so I am totally dependent on Him
- Bringing on seasons (people, circumstances) of conflict to aid in my temperament
- Allowing dry seasons to help me spend money wisely
- Allowing people to leave me so I will know the diligence in not leaving and staying faithful to my husband
- Enabling seasons (people, circumstances) where I am needed for help, so I know what it’s like to help in need
- Bringing forth situations where I learn I am better quiet then trying to get my way all the time
- Enabling seasons (people, circumstances) of waiting so I can develop my patience
- Allowing me to get hit, and hit and hit with circumstance to enable the strength inside of me
- Enabling many circumstances where I am pulled on every side to develop prioritization
You get it?
Going back to my mom, I believe there were certain things I could have only got from her in that season for my development for my future husband, my future business and my future in ministry.
Embrace all the seasons in your life: wet, dry, good, bad, happy, sad, lifeless, lonely, happy, unhappy. Spiritually, just like the physical changing of the seasons, there is a purpose for each one. You may not like it, you may want to quit, you may not want to… enjoy it. In the purposed season, that development will be put into practice! And if you do good, you won’t have to repeat the season again!